Konfliktvermeidung ist total ungesund | Leo & Susanna Bigger | ICF Zürich

2025/05/18 | Leo & Susanna Bigger

In this sermon Leo & Susanna Bigger warn that Konfliktvermeidung ist total ungesund — avoiding conflict harms relationships and keeps wounds unhealed. Main idea: with Jesus’ help you can learn a healthy, “divine” Streitkultur that builds closeness instead of breaking it (see Song of Solomon 5:2–3 for honest relationship language).

Practical takeaway: identify your conflict type, avoid Gottman’s “four horsemen” (criticism, defensiveness, contempt, stonewalling), and use simple tools — the traffic‑light pause (red = stop, orange = calm, green = speak), a 15‑minute listening timer, walks, and the team mindset. Practice asking, “What would Jesus do?” and don’t let the sun go down on your anger (Eph. 4:26); pursue forgiveness (Luke 23:34).

Gentle call to reflection/action: choose one technique to try this week, pray for healing, and commit to growing a healthy conflict culture in your relationships.