This is how you stay interesting for your partner! | Leo & Susanna Bigger | ICF Zurich

2025/05/11 | Leo & Susanna Bigger

Leo & Susanna Bigger teach that staying interesting for your partner means building three kinds of love—agape (selfless), philia (friendship/gratitude) and eros (erotic passion)—because initial attraction often fades after 4–5 years. Rooted in Song of Songs (6:3; 8:7) and powered by God’s love (Romans 5:5), the main idea: choose to love, don’t rely only on feelings.

Practical takeaway: practice agape by asking “What serves you?” and acting; fill your relationship with specific compliments and gratitude (try an A–Z gratitude list); nurture eros by giving yourself away rather than counting results. Encourage patience, shared vision, and daily small acts that bless your partner.

Reflection/action: ask where you can give rather than get this week. Commit to one concrete loving act—speak a heartfelt compliment, serve without being asked, or pray for renewed love.